We constantly hear people discussing how to find a balance with recovery and responsibilities. This is probably one of the toughest things to figure out how to do. It feels like there is a constant need to have balance in order to have peace. That was at least what I was told early in my recovery journey. What I have learned through the years and my experiences is that there is not really a balance to life that will help you to find peace. Although, there are ways in which you can help yourself to be okay with the imbalance of life.
Early in recovery, we learn that there are important things that we need to do like work, pay bills, take care of ourselves and our recovery. However, no one had told me that these things can become overwhelming. The demands of life can be strenuous. Making sure bills are paid, sometimes having to work two jobs in order to do so. Throw in my recovery on top of all of that and well, we can call it the whirlwind of life. If you are in college that can add more stress on top of all the tasks you have already have in place. I remember feeling like I was never going to come out on top. I continuously heard people tell me that I needed to find a balance and focus on my recovery. Well, let me tell you, this is no simple task. There is not a roadmap that tells you “go this way to find peace in life,” although I wish there were.
I sat down and discussed with my recovery support system ways that I could continue to focus on my recovery that were manageable with my demanding schedule.
While attending college after the initial semester, I learned that anything is possible, and the only thing that I could do is be as prepared as possible for anything that could happen. I learned to practice this in my life outside of college. Although time is precious and you only have twenty-four hours in a day, I had to learn to use this time wisely. Just as in college, I set up scheduled study times so I always knew what was coming next. This helped me to not be so overwhelmed. Practicing this outside of the classroom helped me to stay ahead and not get caught up in the stress. I developed a budget and knew when all of my bills were due and at what time of the month. I sat down and discussed with my recovery support system ways that I could continue to focus on my recovery that were manageable with my demanding schedule of work, school, and life.
What have I learned about life and this balancing act? There is not a definable way to balance everything in life. I have learned that I had to find peace with the imbalance of life. There were always going to be appointments to keep, events that come up, and unforeseen circumstances that would happen. I can try to stay ahead as well as I can, and when those things come up that are unexpected it does not seem so strenuous. I can look at the next course to take and take action. The balancing act of life’s circumstances are not where I find the peace, I find peace with knowing that life gets a little messy sometimes but it will work out if I continue to try. We have to remember that there is not a perfect life, only a well lived one. This is different for every person and my path may not be the same as yours, or likewise. That is okay, as long as I am striving to be better.
Peace comes from within each of us and radiates through us. We can always change the path we are on, and do whatever is needed to find our peace. But remember if you stumble, that is okay, that is normal; don’t beat yourself up because you are not alone. We all go through the struggles of life. Reach out and let people know where you are at, and you will learn that they are also going through something similar. That is why we are all here, to help one another find peace and give some experience on how we found our peace with the imbalance of life.
How do you achieve a balance between your recovery and your life?
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